Glen Lee Roberts


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Facebook the Key to Being Alone Online

Tuesday, September 27, 2016 at 07:53
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Facebook the Key to Being Alone Online

This story is inspired by #thestokedlife. Some people that probably have a decent business and some great stories. But they chose to spam me on Facebook. They are by far not the only ones. They go by the name of "The Stoked Life".

After going in circles with them on Facebook, ie: sharing my views on their posts on my Facebook wall, views which were deleted by them. I found their privacy policy:

"If after you opt-in, you change your mind, you may withdraw your consent for us to contact you, for the continued collection, use or disclosure of your information, at anytime, by contacting us at"

I emailed them last night with my view:

I never opted in, nor gave you consent to contact me in any manner (ie: by placing posts on my Facebook wall or otherwise).

Their reply was awaiting me this morning:

Sir, all I did was post a FB Ad for my T-shirt company. I don't control who sees my FB Ad or who clicks on the page. I didn't post anything on your FB wall. I don't even have an opt I page.
I don't want anything from you. I'm just promoting and advertising my store. That's it.

Thank you for your email and concern.

What is the deal with Facebook?

Imagine, if I met 10 friends for coffee. Instead of speaking to me and sharing their experiences of the day, week, or life, they came with a stack of newspapers and shoved them in my face. I'd be sitting alone begin a stack of newspapers.

Finally, I get away from a few of them at the next coffee, and the stack of newspapers is such that I can just start to see over it and hear what my friends actually have to say. However, now comes all the street vendors and stack all their silly wares on top of the newspapers, and I am again buried and alone at a social meeting! Swimming in bullshit at best.

That is the reality of Facebook. I have some "friends" (some I know, some only from Facebook-- which is actually a violation of the terms and conditions of Facebook to have friends you don't personally know) that actually do very interesting things in their lives, that upload photos and stories that are actually interesting. Parroting what is in the newspaper is not interesting.

However, most of that I never see because of what I described above. I tried to fix it by hiding posts relating to the election in the US (I am not American and all that is extremely offensive). Mostly I did that by hiding any post from any major media outlet (including the New York Times, YouTube and Twitter, etc), as well as all the independent media. I resisted for a time hiding RT, as they regularly call me for interviews. However, they are gone now too.

That is, anyone who shares a link about the US election, I hide the source of that link. Of course, still half my daily time on Facebook is hiding more of that junk.

When I first started hiding all that nonsense (why doesn't Facebook call it blocking?), I started to see posts from people I hadn't seen posts from in a long time. Then came a serious barrage of spam (yours included). So, my attempt to make Facebook a great, interesting and useful resource for myself failed. My efforts were crushed by you and the other spammers. Schmucks filling the coffers of Facebook for anti-targeted marketing, anti-social marketing, all in the name of being social.

You must provide some selection of who your ad is directed to. Make a section that does not include me, nor others who are annoyed by such anti-marketing nonsense. And why not complain to Facebook? I do realize the selections are probably stupid, unhelpful, and completely pointless unless you have a product that matches exactly in a very narrow demographic. Stop enriching Facebook while pissing off potential customers.

Your "ads" are being presented as if they were posts from my friends, as if I should share my comments. However, my comments will likely be deleted, if not responded to with complete ignorance. For example, I commented on a post (ie: spam) on my Facebook wall from "I Love Cat" with: "Cat Abuse". I can't believe anyone would view that comment as my being supportive of their post. However, their response was:

I Love Cat In case you cant find it when you leave this page! Make sure to bookmark this post and the link. You can't find it in store :)
Offer ends soon!
We ship Worldwide ✈️

What complete blithering idiots! I also suspect that if I comment on your posts, Facebook shows me more of your junk! Thus expanding their trail of negativity instead of positive, social marketing!

Some spammers on Facebook even block me from commenting on their ads, but keep pushing their ads on me. Now, really, that is stupid. Intentionally targeting people who have expressed their dislike of you and/or your products!

You can be sure that if one day I felt the desire to purchase a product similar to what you sell, that I could have been your customer. Now, you can be rest assured that I will specifically not make a purchase from your business in the future. You can also be assured that I will use you as an example of how not to do marketing.

I am updating my Facebook profile photo to represent my position there. It is a 640x480 black square with one white pixel. I am that white pixel. The black pixels represent the spam and bullshit posts.

If you want to do social marketing for real, why not look at actually being social? Sharing stories, engaging with customers. Not just pushing spam like it was some kind of a post from a friend? Unfortunately, I doubt that is possible for anyone to do that on Facebook.

There must be a story behind the name of your business? There must be a story behind the images you put on your products. Where are those stories in your social marketing? Pushing some product in my face is very anti-social! Where is your interest in what as "stoked" my life, and "stoked" the lives of others? Social means two way. Spamming means one way. Spamming means bullshit. Buzz off!

You chose Facebook to push your products. I chose Facebook to be social. To engage with my Friends, and make new friends (though that is prohibited by Facebook), not to have them push stupid articles on me. Unfortunately, you and Facebook are against me. In the end both of you will be losers. My local coffee shop, eBay, Amazon, and Google (organic search) marketers will be the winners.

Now, I buy lots of shit online. Whatever strikes my fancy at the moment. However, Facebook is not a place I go to find stuff to buy. I go to:, (organic search),, etc. Whatever I want, there is it, when I want it. On Facebook, if I did see something that piqued my interest yesterday, I'd never find it again today when I had the urge to make a purchase.

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Wednesday, October 05, 2016 at 03:12
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Well... lots of people sells stuff on Facebook, you'd find everything if you give it the right look.

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